Depression Is Not A Sign Of Weakness in Men
Perhaps the most blemished code is the universal masculinity code that commands men to retain any problems they face “like real men”; however, this flaw-laden code is an open grave for most men who do not open up about whatever problem is lacerating them from within.
When strong emotions overwhelm women, it’s seen as a normal thing by the society- but when men do, they are seen as weak. Very often men don’t open up their feelings because they feel they are not comfortable talking about how they really feel. They probably feel humiliated if they break down in tears, and taken as a group, men with depression are more likely than women to exhibit anger and addiction issues and less likely to express sadness.
It’s not that men don’t experience grief, shame, despair, self-doubt, loneliness and all the other emotions—it all lies in the fact that many don’t think it’s OK to talk about them. If and when they go to a doctor for help, men are more likely to lie that that emotional distress they are experiencing is nothing but the likes of fatigue, or claim to be “under stress.”
That cultural norm has been perpetuated in our daily literature: the books we read, the movies and television shows we watch, and the role models we admire. It may influence the way depression looks in men—and how other people look at men with depression.
The key is opening up and admitting that we are humane after all. These are not the issues that are faced by those who are considered “weak”. We all are weak and if we could open up well in advance we can get the right help and be happy again- after all, life is enjoyable when we all are happy!!